“Motherhood is the Greatest Thing and the Hardest Thing” -Ricki Lake
With Mother’s Day approaching I know it makes us all think about our moms and the amazing, wonderful traits or things they do everyday(Love you mom). Or maybe it makes us all think about our kids, the ones that made us moms! The other day Dusko asked me in a very joking tone, “When am I going to make an appearance on your blog?” haha. The funny thing was, little did he know I actually was planning to do a post about him. You see, I think that your husband is a HUGE player in what makes you the mom you are. He is your partner, your best friend, the father of your children. Now, I want to preface with the fact that by no means is our marriage perfect. Nor are our parenting skills! haha, we are definitely still learning. every. darn. day. Aren’t we all?
Being a stay at home mom is a very HARD job. I definitely used to judge it, in an “I want to do that kind of way.” It’s hard in many regards because well, first off, your job never ends. You don’t clock out at 3:03, or even 6pm. Dusko is really good at understanding when I need APHUKENBRAKE! lol Seriously, click here to watch one of the funniest Youtube videos I have ever watched. Seriously though, he tells me that I am doing a good job and knows when I have had enough. He also rarely says no when I ask him to go grab me a coffee at Starbucks when we both know darn well we have coffee at home. But, I guess he just gets me! Or maybe he wants me to shut up and it’s just easier. Either way, it fuels me! Literally!
Dusko has also been very supportive of all of my business ventures/side gigs/photoshoots!!! Well, sometimes on the photo shoots. The real real on this is that, I need these side gigs. They make me feel grounded, like I am still a human. Point blank, they make me a better mom. His support is obviously very important to me but truly aside from my mom, he is my biggest cheerleader. Well, I should say fan(he’s for sure front row, 50 yard line if you get me).
Sometimes, ok, most times, he wakes up in the middle of the night for one of the kids. Except when I was nursing and obvs he couldn’t do much. But for real, there were times even when I was nursing, he would get up with me if I couldn’t get one of the kids to sleep. I mean, this is a true co-parenting partner. That was a mouthful. Mom-ing is exhausting. I may not always say it, but this is so helpful. I mean, moms are already zombies, so having someone assist in the wee hours of the night obviously makes me a better mom.
The actual scenario that made me want to write this post though happened just a few days ago. I had gone away for the weekend to my Beautycounter Leadership Summit. I was gone for 4 days/3 nights. I missed Max & Emme SO much! Max is at such an age where he realizes when one of us is gone and is talking so much. Emme was actually mad at me and didn’t want to even facetime me. lol. So, my flight was supposed to land at 9:35am. I got lucky and Southwest put me on a flight that landed at 8:05am. I was already at the airport for reasons I won’t waste your time with so this was great! We live over an hour to the airport, even on a sunday morning. Dusko got both kids ready and loaded up the car per my request for them to pick me up! I know this was the absolute last thing he wanted to do(especially since we had a huge pile of mulch sitting in our driveway that needed to be spread). He did it anyway. He didn’t do it just for me, he did it for the kids too. I know that. What I didn’t know is that they were going to park and come into the airport to surprise me. He carried Emme(forgot the stroller-dad mistake. lol) and held Max’s hand for almost 30 mins just to surprise me. I know this may not sound like much, but to be surprised by your two little kids, who actually were fighting to hug me was literally one of the best moments of my life. And this moment, only happened because my husband is a really great dad. This makes me a better mom.
Thanks Dusko for all you do, I am the mom I am because of you.
